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How to Handle Comments About Your Looks or Hair Style

So, last night I was up against a dilemma that a lot of us face at times. The dilemma was; how truthful am I ALLOWED to be when giving an opinion on a new hair style or hair color job?

My husband and I had met with this couple that we’re doing some business with. This was only our second time meeting them but it was obvious to me she had her hair highlighted.

I knew immediately it was not the right hair color for her skin tone. It was not something I had to think twice about. It was just wrong for her skin coloring. My first thought was to ignore it but that just didn’t seem right, after all, it was obvious.

So, I said to her, ”Oh, you highlighted your hair, quite a bit.” (Now notice, I did not say, I liked her new hairstyle she wasn’t aware of what I do for a living.) She quickly said, ”Thank you very much, yes, thank you for noticing.” Her husband seemed to have a look on his face that was objectionable to her new hair color.

I would have been more TRUTHFULL with her in giving her my opinion if she would have let me. She didn’t ask me, so I didn’t give it. Now, you might say, “If she likes it that’s all that matters.” But later my husband said something like, “what did she do to her hair? it looked awful.” Now if it were you, wouldn’t you want someone to tell you?

My point is, if you want to know if a new style or a new color is good on you, you need to ask in the right way. You can give a person PERMISSION TO BE HONEST by framing your question in the right way.

Here are two scenarios. Which do you think is more likely to elicit a truthful response?

 
1. Yes I did, but I’m not really sure I like my new hairstyle yet, what do you think?
2. “Yes, I did have my hair highlighted. Thanks for noticing, I had it done about a week ago and just decided I wanted it lighter. And well thanks for noticing.” Blah, blah, blah . . .

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